let's not dismiss or hold a grudge against each other over issues that can be so easily overcome. at the very least, at the most basic human level, treating others with courtesy and respect should be a given. let's communicate with one another, especially if there's a misunderstanding, no understanding, or even an understanding. we're not here to wage war against each other or create unnecessary pain. we all want to give and share our love and be good to each other despite feelings of rejection, feelings of wasted energy and effort, whatever... so why the grudge? why take it a level down instead of helping each other grow from it?